There are many tasks that you will have to learn and overcome but many of them you can get teaching for, child rearing is not one of them and when you are faced with child behavior problems it is hard to know who to turn to. As each child is different, you may find that what has worked for your friend or family members will not work for you. I am going to tell you about a few methods that have been used by professionals and parents alike and has meant that you too can successfully benefit from what has been learned.
Some children may have been diagnosed or it may be being looked into that they have a certain condition that affects the way they act. Even still there are steps that you can take so that you can get the best possible from your child in terms of behaviour and not dread going out shopping or taking them outside the home.
One way that people deal with their frustration is to scream and shout at their child, this is because anger gets the better of them. Although you may seem to get results at the time you will find that doing so will mean that no one will benefit and your child will see even negative reactions as attention and reward for their behaviour. This is why they will try the behaviour again and again.
One way to avoid this is to ignore the behaviour if they use bad language, however if they are causing harm to either themselves or others then you should take them away from the situation so that they can have time to calm down. If need be you can restrain them but only by holding them tight enough to stop them moving but not too tight so they may become hurt.
The time out method is used all over the world as an alternative to smacking, this gives both the parent and child the time they need to cool down meaning that things are not said in the heat of the moment and you can both come back to dealing with why you are not happy when you are both calmer. Depending on the age of the child you will have to decide where you want to use as the time out space, this could be anything from a rug or the bottom step of your stairwell. This means that you can adapt the time out to suit your location whether it be at home, at a friends or a bench when you are out and about. You should only leave the child for one minute for each year of their life.
If you find that the child keeps moving from the spot you put them in then you will have to return them to the place no matter how many times it takes to get them to stay there. Although this may seem hard at first you will find that it gets easier and will be worth the work.
When your child behaves well you should make sure that they are rewarded so that they know that this behaviour is acceptable. This will reinforce that when they behave well they will receive something for it so will therefore want to behave in the future.
Another method that is used is sticker charts. They are effective and mean that they do not get rewarded with a gift when they are good, they get a sticker which once collected to a level that is set by you, you will be able to reward them with maybe a family day out, staying up a little later to watch a film or something else they enjoy doing. You do not have to reward them with sweets, children will be just as happy to have your attention and some time with you at the park.
The lessons that your child will learn from your teachings will not only benefit you and your family as you become less stressed both in the home and out of it. You can also be sure that their concentration will be better at school meaning that they will be able to take more in. Routine is also important and also not bending rules all the time as this will cause confusion for them. The lessons you teach them will be something that they will use when they too become parents, although this may seem a long way off you can be sure that it will be useful in years to come. - 29955
Some children may have been diagnosed or it may be being looked into that they have a certain condition that affects the way they act. Even still there are steps that you can take so that you can get the best possible from your child in terms of behaviour and not dread going out shopping or taking them outside the home.
One way that people deal with their frustration is to scream and shout at their child, this is because anger gets the better of them. Although you may seem to get results at the time you will find that doing so will mean that no one will benefit and your child will see even negative reactions as attention and reward for their behaviour. This is why they will try the behaviour again and again.
One way to avoid this is to ignore the behaviour if they use bad language, however if they are causing harm to either themselves or others then you should take them away from the situation so that they can have time to calm down. If need be you can restrain them but only by holding them tight enough to stop them moving but not too tight so they may become hurt.
The time out method is used all over the world as an alternative to smacking, this gives both the parent and child the time they need to cool down meaning that things are not said in the heat of the moment and you can both come back to dealing with why you are not happy when you are both calmer. Depending on the age of the child you will have to decide where you want to use as the time out space, this could be anything from a rug or the bottom step of your stairwell. This means that you can adapt the time out to suit your location whether it be at home, at a friends or a bench when you are out and about. You should only leave the child for one minute for each year of their life.
If you find that the child keeps moving from the spot you put them in then you will have to return them to the place no matter how many times it takes to get them to stay there. Although this may seem hard at first you will find that it gets easier and will be worth the work.
When your child behaves well you should make sure that they are rewarded so that they know that this behaviour is acceptable. This will reinforce that when they behave well they will receive something for it so will therefore want to behave in the future.
Another method that is used is sticker charts. They are effective and mean that they do not get rewarded with a gift when they are good, they get a sticker which once collected to a level that is set by you, you will be able to reward them with maybe a family day out, staying up a little later to watch a film or something else they enjoy doing. You do not have to reward them with sweets, children will be just as happy to have your attention and some time with you at the park.
The lessons that your child will learn from your teachings will not only benefit you and your family as you become less stressed both in the home and out of it. You can also be sure that their concentration will be better at school meaning that they will be able to take more in. Routine is also important and also not bending rules all the time as this will cause confusion for them. The lessons you teach them will be something that they will use when they too become parents, although this may seem a long way off you can be sure that it will be useful in years to come. - 29955
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