Many couples consider their wedding day to be the happiest of their whole lives. Divorce is the furthest thing from their minds as they begin living a new life together as man and wife; they readily agree to love each other as long as they both shall live.
The statistics say something different. The Forest Institute of Professional Psychology reports that one of every two first marriages fail and two of three second marriages fail; proving that your chances of true happiness the second time around is not guaranteed. Sometimes marriages do not work out the way we expected. What is it?
If the divorce comes quickly, it probably means that a couple stepped into marriage too quickly. A married couple share more than money, their entire lives are joined together by marriage. For those who are familiar with being independent, this takes some getting used to.
Sometimes another man or woman is involved. The marriage may have grown stale, or a spouse may have gotten too close to a co-worker or friend. Some marriages cannot recover from an affair because the trust has been shattered.
What some people cannot understand is how some couples split after 10 or 20 years of marriage. "If they've lasted this long together, what problem could come up now" they think. There are many reasons that couples that have been together for a very long time separate - growing apart, kids leaving home, and career moves, for example. A lot of times you will hear someone say, I don't know her/him anymore.
Luckily, there is help for relationships that may be deteriorating. Many different types of marital counseling are available from churches, support groups, and counselors who specialize in helping married couples. Counseling can help couples form a more solid base from which to build their relationship, though it is not an easy answer or quick fix.
Sometimes marriages don't last forever. The odds of a successful marriage improves when both parties are willing to work to find a solution. If you need help, please find a qualified, certified counselor in your area. It is well worth the effort and could possibly save your marriage. - 29955
The statistics say something different. The Forest Institute of Professional Psychology reports that one of every two first marriages fail and two of three second marriages fail; proving that your chances of true happiness the second time around is not guaranteed. Sometimes marriages do not work out the way we expected. What is it?
If the divorce comes quickly, it probably means that a couple stepped into marriage too quickly. A married couple share more than money, their entire lives are joined together by marriage. For those who are familiar with being independent, this takes some getting used to.
Sometimes another man or woman is involved. The marriage may have grown stale, or a spouse may have gotten too close to a co-worker or friend. Some marriages cannot recover from an affair because the trust has been shattered.
What some people cannot understand is how some couples split after 10 or 20 years of marriage. "If they've lasted this long together, what problem could come up now" they think. There are many reasons that couples that have been together for a very long time separate - growing apart, kids leaving home, and career moves, for example. A lot of times you will hear someone say, I don't know her/him anymore.
Luckily, there is help for relationships that may be deteriorating. Many different types of marital counseling are available from churches, support groups, and counselors who specialize in helping married couples. Counseling can help couples form a more solid base from which to build their relationship, though it is not an easy answer or quick fix.
Sometimes marriages don't last forever. The odds of a successful marriage improves when both parties are willing to work to find a solution. If you need help, please find a qualified, certified counselor in your area. It is well worth the effort and could possibly save your marriage. - 29955
About the Author:
Family Law Attorney Becca Menduni offers practical advice at AustinDivorceHelp.com. If you need additional information, go to the extensive list of Austin divorce FAQ's on the site 24 hours a day.
